1. Accomplishment journalling. Write down everything you have achieved so far in life. Sometimes it’s nice to reflect on our accomplishments, big and small. Take time to reflect on how far you have come and how much you have achieved. This isn’t just about money or career – take a more holistic approach looking at every aspect of your life. Have you nurtured some great friendships? Have you completed a qualification? Have you navigated a challenging situation?
2. Basic To-Do. If you’re having a tough day (perhaps your mental health isn’t great and/or you are feeling exhausted), try writing a very small, realistic, to do list. When I have struggled with poor mental health in the past, my to do list on some days would look as simple as this:
- get out of bed
- pull back curtains
- make bed
- have shower
- brush teeth
- brush hair
The act of writing a list and checking off the items can make us feel more in control and help manage the overwhelming feelings of worthlessness/ hopelessness. The list doesn’t need to be long, or contain challenging items, just 2 or 3 things that will help you feel in control.
3. Connect. This isn’t about networking or having loads of friends. As humans, for most of us (introvert or extravert), we require social connections and social interactions to provide us with a feeling of fulfilment and emotional wellbeing. You might get this from friends at work. You might have a close group who you see regularly. Quantity is less important, you may just have two or three friends who you enjoy spending time with. The human connection doesn’t even have to be really meaningful, going to a new club once a week (even a slimming group) can provide enough human connection to feel ‘part of something’. A sense of belonging and connection is hugely important. Take some time to nurture your connections this month. Perhaps you could join a local group? In Oxfordshire we have numerous music groups, walking groups, amdram societies, book clubs, writing groups, parenting groups, climbing clubs… face to face connection is important alongside online support.